Also, since dating a Black man is more of a novelty or thrill for White women, and they do not have any cultural context of growing up and dealing with Black men, they lack a certain hesitation to submit to them that would more inherently come from a Black woman.
Submission does not mean she does everything you say, when you say it. You’re dealing with another grown person, and you are supposed to be a team.
If you want to be single forever, then this isn’t for you, but many Black women want a Black man to love and cherish.
They want to feel like they’re an important aspect of your life.
You’ll see how quick we are to point out our issues with the other gender, but rarely accept hard truths about our gender or do anything to change them.
What if we started thinking of solutions, instead of just the problems?
Many Black men who only date White women typically treat them better because they have assumptions about them and respect them more, and if you show a woman great treatment and respect, she has no problem submitting.
These same men dated a few Black women but looked for the negative stereotypes in them, and thus did not respect them, and thus did not get the submission he wanted.
Some Black women feel the need to show off that they can take care of themselves because of other complaints from Black men that there are Black women who are gold diggers chasing money or “moochers” trying to get money by having children and collecting child support.
This notion comes from the age old “angry, black woman” idea.
Black men have used this as a reason why they prefer the more “calm, level-headed” White woman.
The problem with this concept is two-fold: Anyone can be angry, even non-Black women. You want respect and to be spoken to like a man, but make sure you’re giving the Black woman that same respect back.
However, rooted in a white supremacy structure, White women are always assigned presumed innocence and purity, and it’s that very innocence that has gotten Black men wrongfully imprisoned or killed. Yes, but this comes from being a double minority; it comes from being oppressed not only by White people, but by the only other person you’d hope would understand oppression and not inflict it upon you, but does so anyway based on gender: the Black man. However, if a Black woman does get an attitude with you, ask yourself: Why? If you don’t, don’t expect bad behavior to be met with kind words and non-reaction.