I don’t believe that there is any “right” age for someone to marry, nor do I believe that a girl to marry someone older than her. Whenever women talk about hitting thirty, or forty, or fifty (or any other age that causes them to have a slight crisis), you can always smile a little.
And, of course, I’m only sharing from my limited experience. Getting older is as easy as puddin’ pie because in your circle?
That said; the positives of marrying someone older have been rapidly lost in a world where “young love” is often touted as the best kind. You’ll always be the “young one.”After all, she’s old, too.
And by that, I don’t mean “you won’t ever have financial trouble,” rather, when you do have issues, he’ll probably be stable enough from maturity and that he won’t freak out.
I can’t see myself with somebody in their 20s at the moment.
I’m finishing college and have a well-paying job lined up.
We did break up after 6 months because he felt bad about the age difference and was hesitant to meet my family.This year, my husband, who will move up into his forties, will officially be married to a girl still in her twenties. Actually, we’re just over ten years apart but it so happens that there are three little months between his fortieth birthday and my thirtieth.Considering the fact that he teases me mercilessly about my abundance of gray hair, I think it’s about time I get to talk up my great youth.I grew up the only child of older parents (who are also 10 years apart), and often felt like an awkward old lady trapped inside a teeny-bopper’s body. I admit, I wasn’t as physically attracted to him as I had been to other partners. Have you ever seen a girl with a hideous boyfriend and thought, “Seriously, how the f$*k did he pull that off? Either he's just a nice friggin’ dude; or being with him boosts her self-confidence. In my case, the age gap was actually a cavernous black hole defying space and time. He’s old and sick now, and she takes care of him (even financially), but she’s still partying and sleeping around. I sometimes imagine what would have happened if I had stayed with my older man. The last I heard, my older ex was in a tumultuous relationship with another 20-something, this time a singer reminiscent of Björk. Let me explain: when he gets home from work and you’ve either been working too, or completely forgotten what time it is—he won’t say anything stupid. Instead, he’ll either throw a meal together himself because he’s gotten quite good at it, or be ridiculously happy with toasted cheese and tomato soup because it’s way, way better than the burnt hamburgers he ate for years. I actually do stuff – I’m active in my field, I don’t party, and screwing around doesn’t appeal to me. The age difference is more pronounced in your 20s than in your 40s.I know I can have many more chances to meet somebody, but sometimes I doubt that I’ll meet somebody that I have this many things in common with again. Most 40-somethings will tell you that the age difference is much less an issue in your forties.My question to 40-something women is how comfortable would you be with that age difference, especially if you get along really well?Are older men just more appealing when you’re younger or is it a matter of being a young soul or an old soul and a good connection?