She’s special, and you’ve finally found the courage to ask her out. You should also be respectful in how you approach her. Mention an activity, like going to a movie or a basketball game, and then ask her what she thinks about the idea. “Most young women do not feel good about being pushed.” During the date, focus on her, not yourself. “I think we’re past the days when a strong female would be offended if you opened the door for her,” says California State University of Sacramento psychologist Nancy Kalish, Ph D. Once you start dating, it’s easy to start thinking that the world revolves around this girl. Remember, the reason she gave you for the breakup may not be the true reason.
This goes beyond the (hopefully) obvious steps of bathing and using deodorant, which are important. That way you at least get a clue from the tone of her voice.
Baldinger holds a Master of Arts in comparative literature from the University of California, Los Angeles.
Remain patient and supportive during social situations.
Hold his hand to reassure him at your office holiday party, and refrain from nagging him about his shyness.
Naomi Baldinger began writing professionally in 2007.
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