I met the tall, dark, and handsome (albeit somewhat scruffy looking) man who would become my boyfriend two summers ago. The final straw happened when another well-meaning friend posited, “You should know by about the 6 month mark.” Before sending myself into a mental tailspin I took my concerns to spiritual direction where I was met with this guidance, “The process of dating is threefold: fun, learning and growing, and discernment. If you’re in the first stages—don’t feel the need to jump to the third.” I breathed a sigh of relief.
Dating as Discernment Sydney is a military brat with an artist's heart who grew up in 11 different houses across 6 states and 2 foreign countries.
If you find yourself in these same shoes, I have a simple, yet very effective way to help you discern whether you are with Mr. In reflecting on this question and answering honestly, you take a huge step in knowing if this person is the right one for you.
Even if you’ve only been together a few weeks to a month or so, you already have some insight into your behaviors as a couple. Are you comfortable discussing your beliefs with this person?
Personally, I think there are many indicators to help you know if you are with the right person and the way you feel about someone is certainly one of them. Therein lies the beauty of marriage; learning to love each other even more when those feelings aren’t present.
Usually, when you are with “the one” you feel a strong, familiar, peaceful connection to him/her in addition to the romance and excitement. But, if feelings are not the proper gauge, what is? An interesting trend has emerged in the last 15 years or so that underscores this desire among single people to feel as confident as possible about their chosen partner, and that trend is all about couples who are not yet engaged but are attending pre-cana classes.