If the boss begins to rant and rave, you can leave and say, "I'll come back when you are calmed down and civil." Think of it as a chess match, and be prepared several "moves" in advance. Moreover, be persistent in calling out your boss's bad behavior, and putting your plan into action.
You will also need to be prepared for the fallout of standing up to a difficult or bullying boss. Your coworkers might follow your lead and start to stand up to the difficult boss as well (although you should be prepared for the boss to try to turn them against you, or for your coworkers' possible lack of support). Workplace Bulllying Kickbully.com Namie & Ruth Namie (2009).
He also called me names, talked about me behind my back, refused to give me a raise, ect... He started to blame me for something that I had nothing to do with, calling me names and abusing me, and I who had silently taken it for over a year, finally just scram, [email protected]#$ YOU!!!!! I think he was surprised when his door mat bit back.
I guess he had to find another scapegoat after I left. The problem is that many times in some companies action will not take place until there are many and repeated violations.
HR is there for the company and not always the employees. If the boss is a "higher up" then HR would be very reluctant to do or say anything, especially if this "higher up" brought money into the company.I worked for a horrible, horrible person at a zoo in Virgina.He was Mormon as were nearly all the employees but me, so I became the scapegoat for everything that went wrong.The best way to deal with a difficult boss is to have a plan of action in place.As one client told me, "When the boss calls an ‘emergency' staff meeting, we usually know that she is going to go off on us.When you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed, you might worry about seeming incompetent or even that you’ll get fired.These worries might make talking to your boss intimidating.Here are four strategies to use to deal with your difficult boss.1. In all likelihood, you are frustrated with your difficult boss because he or she consistently displays bad behavior.It is the pattern of bad behavior that drives you crazy (or in some cases, the boss's inconsistent behavior, as in you-never-know-what-you're-going-to-get).In both cases, you realize that talking with your boss would be helpful, but you still feel like you don’t know how to do it.Don’t let your anxiety about talking to your boss keep you from thriving in your career.