Put that person on your list of confidants, but do not make that person your primary emotional outlet.As I wrote last month, that will be incredibly hard to do, but trust me when I say that that discipline and care for the other person will serve you well, whether you end up married or not.Even at this stage in the relationship, there is still no reason or need for the two of you to be alone in one of your apartments together.For the sake of purity, be very careful about how and where you spend time together.The idea in all of that was not to establish a level of emotional (or certainly physical) intimacy that would imply marriage (defrauding one another), and result in a emotional divorce if things don't work out.Our goal in dating as Christians is to save marital levels of interaction for marriage itself; to care well for the other person's soul, to be different from the world and so to bring glory to God.Let's look at how this stage might play out by considering some of the same issues we looked at for the early stage.
Pray with the people that are watching over your relationship.
Remember that in Scripture, we don't see deeply intimate romantic relationships outside of marriage — or if we do, they're described as sinful.
Because of that, let me suggest, even as you assess at this heightened level whether marriage is right, that you limit your emotional (and, of course, physical) intimacy.
Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 5: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship » My last article, "Biblical Dating: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship," sought to apply some of the principles we've discussed in this series to the early stages of a dating relationship.
We talked about how to establish intentions for the early stages, appropriate topics of conversation, types of dates and level of emotional investment.