Khubchandani notes that people who spend their days around young people, like teachers and school administrators, can create clear-cut policies that are regularly reviewed.De Ladesmo says that being transparent with students about these policies is critical to making sure young people make decisions that they feel are best for them.Experts say it's all about spotting red flags, listening to peers, and taking concerns seriously.That includes looking for signs of abuse like gaslighting, jealousy, explosive anger, isolation, and possessiveness."You don’t want someone to disclose abuse to you and afterwards have to tell them that you are required to report the information they entrusted you with to the police, when maybe the young person did not want police involvement," she says.
Only about one-third of young people who experienced abuse told someone about it."For most school counselors, when they graduated [from grad school], they didn’t have these types of issues [in their curriculum]," he says.Additionally, De Ladesmo says that some adults, even those in school environments who receive training on the subject, don't know the legal parameters surrounding reporting an incident and notifying administrators, law enforcement, child services, or other agencies.One Stoneman Douglas student, Victoria Olvera, told the Associated Press after the attack that the shooter was allegedly abusive to an ex-girlfriend and fought her new boyfriend prior to the shooting.reported that the shooter had even threatened to kill the young man, and at least three students had reported the shooter's behavior to school officials in years prior.A similar pattern of events emerged in the recent shooting at Great Mills High School in Maryland on March 20, when 17-year-old Austin Rollins shot two classmates at the school, including his recent ex-girlfriend Jaelyn Willey.Willey died from her injuries days after the shooting. be able to partially prevent violent incidents like mass shooting if signs of teen dating violence, especially violence against women, was taken more seriously? According to advocacy organization Loveisrespect, one in three adolescents experience verbal, emotional, sexual, or physical abuse from a dating partner, and over 1.5 million high school students suffer physical abuse from an intimate partner every year.Much of the focus was on his potential ties to white nationalist groups (there is still no evidence of such ties), as well as his ongoing run-ins with law enforcement, who were reportedly called to his residences dozens of times.Among these details, however, was another key piece of information: Like many mass shooters, the shooter had a history of violence against women.The crucial thing, she notes, is that victims know they have a support system in place for when that time comes."Abusive partners try to isolate their victims so they feel like they have no one to turn to, so if or when the victim decides to leave, knowing that you have their back is going to be really important," she says.